Eva’s Song

"It [Eva's Song] is a lyrical oratory (poem) I wrote with a Holocaust survivor in Spokane who recently passed. I hope you will find it moving. It is meant to be published as a poem and/or read at a Shoah service or other relevant context."

Michael Gurian
Founder, the Gurian Institute
www.genderleadership.com
www.gurianinstitute.com
Author of HOW DO I HELP HIM? and LEADERSHIP AND THE SEXES 

 

Eva’s Song

By Michael Gurian (with Eva Lassman,

survivor of the Warsaw Ghetto and Maidanek)

 

            1.

My friends, I speak to you from beyond your dreams,

an old woman whose hands no longer tremble with love.

My voice once spoke of six million candles

that rose to the sky, and now, I sing again.

You who gather here, good people, you have all you need—

families, friends, your city of lilac and rose,

boxes of blue light in your living rooms,

                                    your internet with its endless poems--

tonight, at this temple, what gift have I left to give you?

I have my last song, my memory of another time,

a question of the eternal soul like a light, still, inside me,

“Did I do enough with my life?”

 

            2.

When I lived among you, I was known as Eva Lassman,

born Eva Bialogrod, in 1919, that old time

of horsemen, valor and trains.

In Lodz, my Polish home, evening skies burned

electric red like a beating heart,

and every map that was ever vague seemed clear.

In their black coats and hair curls, our Hasidic men

                                    davened at shul,

rocking back and forth on their invisible boats of glory,

while our women held the wanderer’s moon

                                    in their busy hands.

My family of Jews carried thirty centuries of sorrow

off a few small stands of joy.

Ojciec, my father, held me on his lap,

and talked of the great light.

“Eva,” he said, “God will keep His promises,

though not always how you expect.”

My mother, Matka, taught me to knit curtains for our windows,

and light candles for Sabbath.

When my brother Haim was born, she said,

“Eva, be grateful for the beauty of this world,

and love the children.”

When my older brother, Moshe’s, daughter was born,

I held her tiny fists in mine:

“Lord,” I smiled, “she will be our butterfly!”

Can you see my family there? I once had photographs.

There are no photographs anymore.

Much happened to my family, and the Jews.

I learned: there is a light so infinite it cannot be seen

until it flickers.

 

            3.

My friends, did you know: everything can be taken from you?

The world can hate itself with the fury of love,

while you wander in the thick of it.

Throughout my life in America, people asked,

“Eva, how could the Jews not know what was coming?”

Hate happens slowly, near firelight and singing,

while children, playing in the snow,

breathe air white as a loaf of bread,

and old people sit together, comparing their wings.

The radios fill with loud lies, the streets with tyrants,

but we say to one another,

“When have the Jews not known a bit of hate?”

When the Nazis ordered, “Wear the yellow star!”

we raised our heads in pride.

When the police took our bicycles, we thought,

                        “It’s better to walk anyway.”

When a young German soldier, blond fuzz on his cheeks,

told me to clean the sidewalk with my underclothes,

I refused; he beat me with his black stick--

the flower of my body became no more than flesh

attached to his brutal rapture—

yet still I did not think I would have to become

other than myself.

How could we not know what was coming?

There are questions a Jew asks

for which all the answers are dead.

 

            4.

The Nazis broke down our doors. Juden, Schnell!

They chased us to the grainy fields.

“Eva, hide!” my family cried, “Eva, save yourself!”

            Matka, who sang me awake to this life,

lost her heartbeat to the fleeing.

Ojciec died wretching and pockmarked with disease.

Moshe and his wife and daughter…shot dead;

Haim, little Haim, held onto his ragged clothes

until, a naked boy at Auschwitz,

he burned to ash.

I fled to Warsaw where the days of time closed to me.

In that ghetto of grief, I became a woman.

Unable to save the people I loved,

I learned to read the book of God’s silence.

Friends, when you cannot save your own family,

            forgiveness of yourself becomes

the worst cruelty imaginable.

 

5.

When the Nazis set fire to our ghetto,

we who survived were herded into cattle cars.

In the iron moan of trains, we rode to Maidanek.

A Rabbi near me whispered, “We must remain brave—

but Lord, what trail is the Jew following?”

We arrived at walls of echoing screams, as if God

could make a hateful symphony.

I begged the soldier at the garrison,

“Please! Let me keep my last family photograph!”

He put his gun to my head, he said,

“You may keep it in death.”

In the falling snow, I watched the last paper of my life

turn to ash.

Later, when I was old, people asked me:

“Eva, how did you few survive the camps of terror?”

            My answer: We decided the footprints of the Jews

must not disappear from this earth.

We moved rocks from one wall to another

to prove we were alive enough

to move rocks from one wall to another.

We breathed just enough air each day

to hold in our small hands each night

the beating heart of shattered things.

 

            6.

My friends, those were my darkest days.

What would you have done in my place?

Would you have given up on the world?

            Would you have hated God?

Would you have closed away your love?

I tried to hate God, I tried to close myself away,

                        I tried to give up and die,

but I was a Jew who had lived for many years

in a garden of the beautiful sun,

and though I lost my family and my home, still,

an ancient poem returned to my dreams,

still, a light appeared in the crack of an old doorway,

still, shadows promised mysterious truths

of that light;

still, I heard Matka whisper, “Eva, you must sing a song for us,”

still, Ocjiec prayed at his Book of dreams,

“Eva, no matter what happens, carry God’s stars

in your trembling hands.”

And so I prayed, in my family’s memory,

“Lord, if I die in place, please at least make my bones

into wax for Your lit candles.”

People say: “Eva, how could you think of faith

                        in that dark and godless time?”

Friends, in my 92 years, I did not learn

why God brought us to the grave of a thousand spectacles,

but in the name of all who once touched my baby skin,

I could not blame that light.

People say: “But Eva, your God abandoned you!”

I say: God was the presence of light

even in the darkest dark.

People say, “But Eva, that God is not enough!”

            I say: there is no greater God in the universe.

 

7.

When the dying mothers, holding out their empty arms,

and the dying fathers with their darkened eyes,

and the children sobbing before their burning

cried to their angel of God,

“Young woman, you must survive,” I heard them also whisper:

“Eva, what promises will you keep?”

Twenty five years old, rags for skin, I promised all I had,

the eternal lightness of seeds:

that ash rising from smokestacks would carry with it

weightless births on other shores.

When the Russian soldiers came, their faces sordid and grim--

when they gave me back my freedom,

that dull magnificence regained at the cost of everything--

I promised to live.

O my dears, I have seen paradise:

it is wherever you breathe freely.

 

8.

I walked half-dead from Maidanek to Lodz,

saw tefillin and tzitzit and hair curls again,

saw a Torah again.

I met a skeleton from Buchenwald who still breathed.

Zev Lassman and I learned how to eat and drink again,

we tasted milk and candy.

At a small altar of broken glass, we married.

Ah my dears, you who, today, make love so difficult:

there are a six million reasons to love,

and no reason not to.

Holding hands at the rail of our ship to America,

Zev and I watched wind slide across the waves.

Light wrinkled the waters of life like jewels returned to us—

our sons, Iro, Joel, and Sylvan became

the stars God gave us to carry

in our trembling hands.

Friends, have you noticed: no matter how rich or poor you are:

in your newborn child’s eyes,

you see the light God promised at creation?

 

            9.

And our boys grew into men and married,

and I became a grandmother,

a bent lily with a slight accent, butterflies clinging to my stem.

One day after Zev had gone, my granddaughter

helped me hang curtains on my windows,

for I could no longer lift my thin arms; with her kind voice,

she asked me why I had no photographs of my childhood.

I told her my story.

Her eyes lit with angry tears, and we held each other.

We talked a long time of the old worlds.

Finally, she asked, “Bubbe, should I hate the Germans?”

I spoke my truth: “Jews must never hate—

we must use that ash for our flowers.”

O my friends, O my dears, this is my song:

I am a Jew, and Jews were born to plant flowers

even in the garden of a thousand sobs.

 

            10.

Do you understand, then, do you understand

the beauty of being here, at your time, in your place, on this earth?

            Will you choose to see who you can be,

Jew or Gentile--will you see?

You don’t have to walk through fire--

We did that for you already, so that you could dream.

You don’t have to love as if the death of love

is all you’ll ever have. We have done that for you.

What you must do, is keep your promises.

My dear friends, you must care for your family as a promise,

you must take photographs of loved ones, and realize:

they are your masterpiece.

And when your life is hard and tiring,

you must promise, still, to cherish it.

And even when your marriage does not fulfill you,

you must promise, still, to practice mercy.

And even when God seems to disappear into His own thoughts,

you must still choose between the sweet and the bitter.

And you who always want more…more…more,

you must promise to love what you already have.

And you who sit complacent in a gilded cage--

you must promise, right here, right now,

to find your journey, and a star.

 

11.

And when terror comes knocking on your door,

say, while you’re cooking in firelight

and your children play in the snow;

when hate hisses on your Internet or television or radio,

                        “Your God is not the right God,

Your children are not as holy as my children”—

promise to fight that hate with all you have.

No matter your creed or color, promise you will never let

the ash of hate cover our human footprints!

And when in your lives, you lose sight of God’s stars

--which you will--

when you think, “I cannot have faith anymore,”

remember why the first flower opened its petals

to show its fragrant heart:

it felt encouraged by a light so vast, such an infinite, blazing eye,

it sought truth even in darkness, in flickering light,

for creation must be ever re-born.

 

            12.

            I was Eva Lassman, born Eva Bialogrod, in 1919.

I am one of those who survived the excesses of God’s masterpiece.

            When I died at 92, I knew the “truth”:

truth is not some loud answer to a particular fear, ambition, or lack:

truth is a question as fragile

as the world’s most fragile child,

“What will I do with my life?”

I gave everything I had to mine,

so it would not merely be taken.

And now, I end my song, asking that you ask yourself--

                        “What will I do with my life?”

in a voice so loud and clear your children’s children

            will hear your determination long before they’re born.

                        Friends, I learned in my long life:

            it does not matter how much you suffer,

            it does not matter what mistakes you’ve made;

all that matters is this: when God opens your soul and asks:

            “Do you understand the promise I made to you at Creation?”

                                                you must answer,

            “Yes, Lord, Yes, I do, and so, to my last heartbeat,

to the last action of my last breath, to the last flickering of my light,

                                    my life will be the promise You kept.”

 

 

Copyright, Michael Gurian, 2011